A Few Weeks, A Few Thoughts

May 19, 2009

So, I have been doing the whole Stay-At-Home-Dad bit for a few weeks now and let me tell you, this is no joke.  As I have said before, I never thought this would be a walk in the park, but it is definitely harder than I ever could have imagined.  Yes, I get to watch TV all day and generally not do a thing, but when you may have only slept for 3 hours you try to get in as many naps as possible between the 2.5 hours you have left before the next feeding.  The day to day events aren’t so bad – it’s mainly the sleep, or lack thereof.  It’s amazing how little sleep ones body can actually run on.  Next up would have to be Wes’s reflux.  Some feedings he is perfectly fine, but the ones when his reflux kicks in are not fun by any means, especially for him.  When it gets really bad he can be fussy ALL DAY.  Trying to take care of Wes when he is in pain, while also trying to care for Max makes for a very long day.  I can say (without a doubt, at least for me) that this is easier than when the boys were in the NICU.  That time they spent in the hospital was so emotionally draining, which is a lot harder to deal with than the physical\sleep deprevation aspect.

Please understand that I am not complaining.  We have waited for this for so long, and at this point there is still no other place I would rather be than at home taking care of our boys.  I wish Kerry could be here with me, too.  Not so much for the help, but so that she could get to see and hear and feel everything I do.  

I should probably take some people up on their offers to go on walks and such, i just have not found my rhythm yet.  Once the boys and I do get into our rhythm I will be more up for getting out of the house with the them.  I would love to get out for lunch and\or to the zoo, or anything really.  Well, not anything – crowded, confined spaces are known to be germ havens so they are out of the question.

I have an appointment for Wes on Thursday to see if the doc will do anything for his reflux.  Once that is under control I think things will be a lot better.

To wrap it up, getting to be home with the boys is the best feeling ever because I get to watch them grow physically and mentally.  I can see them recognizing me more and more every day, and the facial expressions they make as their little personalities develop are priceless.



9 Responses to “A Few Weeks, A Few Thoughts”

  1. LeAnn said

    I think it is fantastic that you are doing this. It is an expericece that most dads don’t get. Just remember to enjoy this time- they grow up too fast!

  2. Porche said

    You’re doing a great job! Just because you and K worked so hard to have your babies doesn’t mean you can’t recognize that it isn’t a breeze. These boys are lucky to have you SAH with them.

  3. Alexis said

    Jeff. I feel your pain and totally understand how difficult it must be to ‘try’ (we know there is nothing you can do to consol) and help Wes when he’s fussy and I’m sure at times you have two wailing babies on your hands. It drains the little energy 3 hours of sleep actually gives you. We are on our 7 formula suggestion by our Ped and second reflux med prescription! Getting it under control may not be easy, but keep trying things! You never know what may work for him. Best of luck and let me know if you have any tricks up your sleeve. 🙂

  4. ischwab said

    The MILFs are ready and waiting to hang out with you 😉

  5. lanielove1 said

    I feel your pain too. Sydney has developed reflux, so we’re working on the same fussy issues over here. Hope it gets better on your end soon.

  6. militarywifealways said

    I think your truly an awesome dad, hope they can get that reflux under control

  7. Tova said

    You go on & complain, you deserve it! You never know how awesome it is to get a full night’s sleep until they disappear with the arrival of a new baby. Just keep telling yourself that this is only temporary (someday, hopefully soon) they will start sleeping longer and longer & then thru the night.

  8. Ryan said

    Jeff – Glad to hear you are enjoying your SAHD time. Like your and Kerry, we are realizing sleep is “highly” overrated! Ha! And like you said, every day and every expression is priceless!

  9. Jessica said

    Hi Jeff and Kerry,

    Barring something unforeseen, we will be bringing Neal, our 31-weeker, home today from the hospital after a 6-week stay. His sister Phoebe has to stay a little longer due to some feeding issues. I’ve been on the internet this morning searching for info on parents experiences in those first few days and weeks of bringing home preemies. Your blog is easy to navigate and read. Any suggestions you have of resources (books, websites, other blogs) to help guide me would be much appreciated.

    By the way, can I just say how bizarre it is to be the parent of a preemie in the hospital? Since 6 weeks have passed our house is pretty much in order for their eventual arrival. Here I am drinking some coffee, throwing a fritatta together and surfing the net. Yes, there is a hospital grade breast pump in the corner of the living room, but other than that, nothing points to our odd experience. It seems unbelievable that he will be home this afternoon. Of course, we thought he was coming home on Tues and had that thwarted, so I don’t want to jinx anything here.

    Thanks for your efforts!

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